外教應(yīng)該怎么和學(xué)生相處？
牙齒與舌頭也會(huì)打架。本國(guó)的教師尚且難以避免產(chǎn)生相處間的問題，那么，對(duì)于來(lái)自異國(guó)他鄉(xiāng)的外教來(lái)說(shuō)，更是難免會(huì)遇到各種各樣的問題。這些問題可能是習(xí)慣問題，也可能是學(xué)習(xí)、生活上的矛盾，如果這些問題不能解決，將會(huì)影響到之后的學(xué)習(xí)與相處。在這一點(diǎn)上，外教Dylan處理的非常好，學(xué)生拿她當(dāng)做姐姐一樣尊敬，我們就來(lái)看看她是怎樣與同學(xué)們相處的。
The teeth and the tongue will also fight. It is difficult for teachers in their country to get along with each other. So for foreign teachers from other lands, they will inevitably encounter various problems. These problems may be habit problems, or contradictions between learning and life. If these problems can not be solved, they will affect subsequent learning and getting along with each other. At this point, the foreign teacher Dylan handles very well, and the students respect her as a sister, and we'll see how she gets along with her classmates.
首先，外教Dylan十分尊重同學(xué)們
First, the foreign teachers, Dylan, are very respectful of the students
許多老師與學(xué)生相處時(shí)都會(huì)站在一個(gè)“統(tǒng)治者”的角度，對(duì)學(xué)生發(fā)布命令。但是，這樣往往會(huì)引起學(xué)生的逆反心理。外教Dylan在與同學(xué)相處時(shí)，總是將他們當(dāng)做朋友一樣平等對(duì)待，對(duì)于她不懂的中國(guó)習(xí)俗，她很愿意向同學(xué)們請(qǐng)教，對(duì)于一些外國(guó)的傳統(tǒng)，外教Dylan也樂意為同學(xué)們解說(shuō)。正是這樣互相尊重，平等對(duì)待的相處模式，讓外教Dylan在中國(guó)的教學(xué)工作進(jìn)行得十分順利。
Many teachers get along with students in a "rulers" point of view and give orders to students. However, this often causes the students' adverse psychology. Dylan, a foreign teacher, always treats them like friends when they get along with their classmates. She is very willing to ask her classmates for Chinese customs that she doesn't understand. For some foreign traditions, Dylan is also willing to commentary for her classmates. It is this kind of mutual respect, the equal treatment of the way to get along, let foreign teachers Dylan in China's teaching work is very smooth.
第二，當(dāng)然是要有足夠的知識(shí)與教學(xué)經(jīng)驗(yàn)
Second, of course, there is enough knowledge and teaching experience.
有一些外教覺得英語(yǔ)是自己的母語(yǔ)，就會(huì)眼高手低，不再繼續(xù)學(xué)習(xí)進(jìn)步。外教Dylan在最初試講時(shí)就用她豐富的知識(shí)與熟練多變的教學(xué)方法俘獲了同學(xué)們的“芳心”，在之后的教學(xué)中，她又適應(yīng)著中國(guó)學(xué)生的學(xué)習(xí)方法，不斷改善自己的教學(xué)方法。外教Dylan不滿足于一時(shí)的成就，而是一直在追求進(jìn)步。
Some teachers think that English is their mother tongue, but will no longer continue to progress, learning. Dylan in the first trial by trapping her knowledge and skilled varied teaching methods to the students "heart", after the teaching, she has to adapt to a Chinese learning method of students, improve their teaching methods. The foreign teacher Dylan is not satisfied with the achievement of the moment, but is always pursuing progress.
第三，多多引導(dǎo)同學(xué)們，從而達(dá)到一種相互包容的境界
Third, to guide the students to achieve a kind of mutual tolerance
不同省份的人們差別尚且不小，更別說(shuō)不同國(guó)家的人了。外教從國(guó)外來(lái)到中國(guó)工作，在生活、習(xí)慣上與同學(xué)們差別巨大，這時(shí)就需要相互之間多包容、接受對(duì)方的不同，求同存異。外教Dylan剛來(lái)的時(shí)候也十分不適應(yīng)，比如在吃飯前她都會(huì)祈禱，而同學(xué)們卻覺得沒有必要。這時(shí)她沒有生氣，而是耐心地給同學(xué)們講了緣故，同學(xué)們聽后也開始轉(zhuǎn)變態(tài)度，有些甚至和她一起祈禱了。還有，外教Dylan剛來(lái)的時(shí)候不會(huì)用筷子，同學(xué)們看到這里紛紛去幫她，外加Dylan沒有拒絕同學(xué)們的好意，而是通過努力學(xué)會(huì)了使用筷子，拉近了與同學(xué)們之間的距離。
People in different provinces are not small, let alone people from different countries. Foreign teachers come from abroad to work in China. They are very different from their classmates in life and habits. At that time, they need to tolerate and accept each other's differences, seeking common ground while reserving differences. The foreign teacher, Dylan, was also very uncomfortable when she arrived, for example, she would pray before eating, but the students did not feel necessary. At this time she was not angry, but she told the students patiently, and the students began to change their attitude, and some even prayed with her. Also, when foreign teacher Dylan just came, he couldn't use chopsticks. The students saw that they went to help her, and Dylan didn't refuse the kindness of their classmates, but learned to use chopsticks and draw the distance from their classmates through hard work.
第四，即使是再完美的相處也難免會(huì)產(chǎn)生矛盾，產(chǎn)生矛盾時(shí)又該怎樣解決呢
Fourth, even if it is perfect to get along with each other, it will inevitably produce contradictions, and how to solve the problem when it comes to contradiction.
我們還是以外教Dylan為例來(lái)解說(shuō)一下。一次階段考試過后，外教Dylan教的班級(jí)里成績(jī)很差，尤其是英語(yǔ)課代表杰瑞也考的不盡人意。外教Dylan有些生氣，在課上批評(píng)了英語(yǔ)課代表最近學(xué)習(xí)不用心，考試馬馬虎虎。杰瑞同學(xué)很不開心，一節(jié)課都低著頭不說(shuō)話。外教Dylan感到自己行為不妥，傷到了學(xué)生的自尊心，于是在下課后，她比杰瑞同學(xué)叫到教室外面，先向他表示了歉意，然后耐心地問了他最近的情況。當(dāng)知道杰瑞同學(xué)因?yàn)檎疹櫳〉哪赣H才沒有精力學(xué)習(xí)時(shí)，外教Dylan主動(dòng)去杰瑞家里為他補(bǔ)課，不久之后，不僅杰瑞同學(xué)的成績(jī)提高了，同學(xué)們和外教Dylan的距離也拉近了。
Let's teach Dylan for example. After one stage of the exam, the class in the foreign teacher's Dylan class was poor, especially in the English class, Jerry. The foreign teacher Dylan is a bit angry, in class criticized the English class representative of the recent study without intention, the exam is so careless. Jerry's classmates are very unhappy. They don't talk at all in one class. Foreign teacher Dylan felt his behavior was not good enough, and hurt her self-esteem. So after class, she called out to the classroom outside Jerry. He apologized to him first, and then asked him the latest situation patiently. When Jerry knew that his classmates didn't have the energy to learn when they took care of their sick mother, Dylan took the initiative to go to Jerry's home to make up lessons for him. Soon after that, not only did Jerry's classmates improve their performance, but also the distance between their classmates and foreign teacher Dylan was also close.
